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This Moment is Yours: 4 Steps to Live Your Best Life

At some point in a person’s life, one asks the following questions:
1.  Am I living my best life?
2.  What do I need to do in order to live my best life?

Often times, the honest answer is ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I am too busy to think about that right now’.

Here’s the thing: there is no end to being busy.

Whichever phase of life you may be in, it only keeps getting busier. Some days I feel that my head is spinning with all things that need to be done, all the obligations I need to fulfill, the remaining tasks still on my to-do list. I find myself wishing there is more time to do things I actually want to do and not just things that have to be done. Then I wonder if there is more time, would I make use of it with something meaningful or just fill it with more business, ahem, busy-ness?

I was planning on pondering these thoughts in more detail at a later date. Then, some health issues caused me to reevaluate my life in a very real way. I found myself asking: could this be it, a finite future? The results of the tests let me breathe a sigh of relief that at least for now the future is still open to me. However, I found that something had changed within me. It was an acute awareness that my situation could change at any given moment. I felt an urgency to make some changes, to snap out of routine, and to really live my life. I made a promise to myself at that moment: to start making these changes now.

It is easy to fall into our various roles and forget who we are as individuals and the goals and dreams we once had. However, time doesn’t stop after we reach a certain point (fill in whatever applies to you here. Examples: start a job/get married/have kids/make more money/etc). These changes can be made at any time.

Prioritizing Goals

What really matters to you? If we are not actively prioritizing and reprioritizing goals, we can get sucked into cruise control mode, a comfortable complacency of our everyday routine. This leads to boredom, dissatisfaction, restlessness, and as the saying goes: same shit, different day. The hours in the day don’t change and neither do the responsibilities. However, the perspective on how to handle these demands can change.

At first it is difficult to let go of the extra, the fluff, all of which can become a security blanket. However, neither material items nor staying busy for busy sake defines you. In fact, those things can be the very causes of extra stress. So, why not free yourself from self-imposed stresses?

With this perspective, I try to declutter every few weeks: mentally, literally, and figuratively. There’s just not enough time to do things just for the sake of doing them. Now, I focus on mindful living, having enriching experiences, making time for self care, and being around the people who are important to me. And it feels liberating!

Living Intentionally

Each day is a new opportunity to live and not just exist. Each day is a new canvas to paint the story of your life according to you. Living intentionally means making the most of your life, especially the small moments that make up each day because the choices you make today will affect your tomorrow.

Approach your life with curiosity and wonder. Make things a fun experience. Take the time to figure out who you are, what adds joy and value to your life, and what you want out of your life. Then, make those things a priority for you and your family.

Being Present

There is a difference between just sitting there versus actually being mentally and emotionally there as well. Ask anyone whose love language is quality time that a person fiddling on their phone and listening isn’t really listening as much as just going through the motions. Being tired or parental burnout mode can take a toll on being present so be aware of it.

We are so good at multitasking the aspects of our life that we often forget to turn that skill off. So, what is great at work for efficiency continues into our home life and we miss out on great opportunities to connect and live. Adults and children alike sense when someone is not fully present.

Make a conscious effort to fully participate when around friends and family. Time spent with others is much better when we fully engage, ask thoughtful questions, stay present in the moment. It really does transform everyday interactions to quality experiences.

Step Out of your Comfort Zone

Have you achieved everything you have wanted to do so far?

Are there things on your bucket list that you want to do but for whatever reason haven’t been able to get to them yet?

What is holding you back?

Ever since my shift in perspective, I am asking myself more of these questions to evaluate, prioritize, and energize myself. I have stopped making excuses to myself to not do things I want to do, especially things that get me out of my comfort zone. It can be anything from learning that foreign language you have wanted to learn, traveling more, learning to cook, starting a new skill, playing an instrument, etc.

You don’t need a drastic life changing event to occur to start living your best life. Anyone can do it. If there are things you have been procrastinating or if you feel in a rut or just want to cross off things from the bucket list, the time to make those changes is now.

This moment is yours.

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12 Comments

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    Girl In Gamba
    January 26, 2018 at 9:53 am

    I really like this post because you’ve got some really great ideas here. I found myself nodding along while I was reading. I think for me, stepping out of my comfort zone is one of my biggest things I need and want to do. In fact, it’s one of the reasons why I started my risk 23 series on my blog. I definitely found that staying in your perfect little bubble doesn’t really help you grow as a person. So, I’m really focused on continuing with that this year! Great post!

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      themindfulmdmom
      February 1, 2018 at 11:46 am

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I am excited to read your series and to see how this year goes for you. Stepping outside the comfort zone is a big goal for me this year as well. Glad we are in it together!

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    kerry
    January 26, 2018 at 10:53 am

    Ohhh I am with you 100% here. In July last year, we had the rug pulled out from under us with my husband being taken seriously ill. There was no warning to it, one day he was fine, the next day fighting for his life. Long story short, as he recovers, it has made us look at and evaluate life in a totally different way. The things that felt important and a big deal before he got ill, now, just are not! This is a great, thought proving post, thank you for sharing x

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      themindfulmdmom
      February 1, 2018 at 11:49 am

      Great to hear from you! I am sorry to hear about your husband’s illness. How are yall so far? It is crazy how we go from just cruising along to wow I really need to live my life and make it count! Thanks for sharing your experience with me.

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    rayane
    February 14, 2018 at 10:25 am

    thanks for sharing, i loved reading this and i also think that stepping out of the comfort zone has a veryyy big influence on success, however, not every one has the courage to do so. I think encouraging ourselves and always reading motivational stuff can definitely help.

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    Allie
    February 14, 2018 at 2:20 pm

    “I am too busy to think about that right now” is definitely me! I know it’s important but it feels like one extra thing on the to-do list. I hate that it usually takes something tragic for our mindsets to change and for us to start making the necessary changes in our lives. I will continue to work on this using the tips you suggested. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    Jenn
    February 14, 2018 at 10:02 pm

    Stepping out of your comfort zone is a big one! You learn and see new things that way!

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    Natalie
    February 15, 2018 at 10:57 pm

    All excellent points. I always have such a hard time staying present and not getting lost in planning for the future!

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